2018 Challenge

I never thought 2017 would end the way it did. I feel like looking back on it, I had a lot of ups and downs ( I think more downs than ups; but who’s counting, right?) I honestly feel like I’m starting off 2018 in the exact place I started 2017 off in. How weird you say? No, I don’t think its weird at all. I had a lot of time to myself this weekend to reflect on just that. It occurred to me that if I continuously focus my life on the same things and continue to make the same mistakes then I will continuously see the same patterns in my life and have the same outcomes year after year. So, how do I avoid that? I will change my life completely. Ha. Yeah right, that’s definitely easier said than done. Well, I think last year I was headed in the right direction with promoting a positive outlook and atmosphere and surrounding myself with positive things, but that too is easier said than done. Life gets hard, it gets busy, it gets crazy, it gets painful, it gets messy, people are cruel, they are hurtful, we have emotions, finances get tough and we reach a breaking point. Then what? I don’t know. That’s just it. No one knows the right things to say or do in difficult times. We all experience these things and it’s called LIFE for a reason. We weren’t put on Earth to be handed everything on a silver platter. No one is entitled more than any other person. We all have struggles and sins (some just hide it better than others). I wish I knew all the right things to say but all I know is that God is always there. He has been my best friend. He has been the only stability in my entire life. He knows the good, the bad, the ugly, the things I’ve never told anyone, the number of hairs I have on my head and He knows my path before I even decide it. Guess what? He still loves me and He created me in His image. He knows everything and still Loves ME just as I am. Perfectly Imperfect. He loves you too, even if you don’t know Him. If you’ve never been one to follow Jesus or get to know God, all I ask is that you open your heart and eyes and just talk to Him in private and see the beautiful world He created, no one will know but you and God. What could it hurt? It has changed my life. That is my goal this year to take an even closer walk with God and to open up my eyes and ears and listen and look for what He has in store for my 2018. I hope you will join me. 

Perfection

My whole life I struggled with trying to be a “perfect” person. Tried to have the perfect appearance, the perfect heart, the perfect attitude, the perfect relationships…I think you get the picture. I didn’t realize that what I was actually doing was creating a distorted image of myself on the inside and creating in myself worry, anxiety and depression because I would never be my idea of perfect. I couldn’t achieve it. When I started to analyze my life and where in my life this worry and anxiety stemmed from, I realized it all went back to just that…I wanted to be perfect. What is perfect? Well I’ll tell you what the magazines and movies portray as perfect…a size 00 and flawless skin and the white picket fence with no arguments and no crying babies and no drama and no financial issues. We are shown that particular image over and over growing up and expect our world to look just like that, perfect. When I really started to dig deeper into the thought of perfection, I realized that no one is perfect (even though growing up you hear this a thousand times) but God himself. I realized that no matter how hard you strive for what you think of as perfection, you can only be as perfect as God allows you to be. God thinks of you as perfect. He created you in his image. Just as you think of your child as the most perfect creation ever, God thinks of you in that manner; He created you. He determines your path. He knows your thoughts and direction before you even do. Once I realized that and came to that conclusion, that no matter what I viewed as perfect, I am perfect in His eyes, my whole life changed. Also realizing that He is control and determines my steps that was a HUGE eye opener for me. It is one thing to realize it, but to live each day knowing that, made my life change for the better. You trying to plan your direction and whole future out is like you trying to determine all the street names and not even knowing which city you will be in. It’s just that simple, trying to figure out what path He is leading you on is not your job, it’s doing the right things on the journey and realizing that He is on the path next to you guiding you and with you every step of the way!

 

Love God & Love People

Have a Blessed Day!

I need to get better at this…

I need to get better at blogging more often…Obviously my life has been a little chaotic lately…but on a positive note I have a new niece!!!! I am absolutely smitten with!!!

Ever find yourself wondering about life and how you wound up at the very instance you are at in your life? I do all the time. Sometimes life can be painful, it can be hard, it can be amazing and it can be beautiful. Nothing was made perfect except God. We have to go through things in our life sometimes to learn and grow in our lives. Sometimes we don’t necessarily understand in the moment why we are hurting or why we have to be in the situation that we are in but I promise there is a light at the end of that tunnel. I truly believe that everything happens for a reason and even if you don’t see it in the moment, if you could see the big picture (your entire life) and how it plays out you would realize why you were stuck at that train, why you are struggling financially or why you are going through so much pain in your life. I recall after 9/11 something that struck me and still does to this day; people were saying, “wow that could’ve been me”, “I was running late this morning”, “I happen to have a doctor’s appointment today” or “I took the day off”. That’s amazing to think that something we normally get frustrated with (being stuck in traffic) was actually the reason that a life or many was actually saved that day. So when you catch that train or are stuck in traffic just remember you are right where you are supposed to be. You may be avoiding some other tragic event or a wreck or who knows. I always thank God for the little reminders to slow down and I use that time to thank him for reminding me that I am right where I need to be in that moment. I know life isn’t easy and I don’t think it was meant to be. I think each day is an opportunity for growth and to learn something about yourself. Trying to stay positive in such a chaotic world is difficult but reminding yourself that God is always with you and will be with you on this journey and through your struggles is always a great place to start.

Hello…How are you?

Hopefully you don’t have that Adele song in your head like I do now…ha…Hope you all have been doing exceptional! I know we all have down days and I have had my fair share of a couple since I have begun my positive journey. I have been experiencing some pain on and off since I’ve had shoulder surgery and sometimes it can just get you down. But, I have learned that even on those days there is always a way to put a smile on your face. First off I would recommend NOT getting on social media sites. I have found that to be hit or miss, depending on how people’s moods are, you can come across all sorts of things…rants, drama, excitement, videos, pictures and more recently political posts. I think when you are already feeling down and it’s a “miss” day on a social networking site it can just get you more down or frustrated. Sometimes everyone just seems to have a good day and be in a good mood, I find that to be on Friday’s or the weekend (ha), but for the rest of the days…it’s hit or miss.  

Some suggestions of things I like to do when I am having a bad day… I like to google happy quotes in images, look up funny videos or watch a comedy on Netflix or DVD, exercise (just go for a walk and take in the sites and enjoy what God has created), take a long bath (if you don’t have a kiddo knocking on your door ha), pick up your bible or maybe just phone a friend or family member for a chat. I think sometimes you need a little help to perk yourself up. I have found the Bible App (the one with the brown Holy Bible book) has plans that you can choose from and read daily that are tailored to moods or topics that you pick from (ex: patience, love, depression, temptation, kids, singles, dating, marriage, men, women and the list goes on). It has been something that I have been reading daily in the morning and it has been really helpful in starting my mornings off positively. (And yes, if you haven’t figured it out yet I may be a little ADD…squirrel)…I’ve come to realize that being Positive isn’t just a walk in the park, it takes effort daily but it is possible to attain. I like a good challenge and being Positive daily is an amazing one to have. I want to be happy and promote happiness everywhere I go or to the people I come in contact with.   What are some things that you do to promote a positive mind? 

Stay Positive, Work hard & Make it Happen!! Love to you all! Oh and Monday is Over!!

Quotes/Bible Verses/ Church Notes

“Don’t worry about anything; instead, Pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him fro all he has done.” – Philippians 4:6

“If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” – Adapted from A Simple Path

“Don’t wait for everything to be perfect before you decide to enjoy your life.” – Joyce Meyer

“A candle loses nothing by lighting another candle.” – James Keller

“You deserve to be happy. You deserve to live a life you are excited about. Don’t let others make you forget that.” – Unknown

These are all from notes I took from Waters Edge Services that Pastor Tony has stated:

“You don’t have to call people out for how wrong you think they are to prove to yourself how right you think you are.” – Pastor Tony

“If you want to change results in your life then you have to change some of your behaviors.” -Pastor Tony

“You cannot pray or bargain or confess your way out of the junk that you lived your way into, but you can follow Jesus out of it.” – Pastor Tony

Love People, Love God, Be Happy & Stay Positive!!!

Where’d You Go?

Well, it has been quite some time since I’ve logged on and lets just say there has been a lot of negativity going on lately in regards to politics. Let me just start out by saying I am not one to talk about politics or get involved in debates or speaking my mind to others on topics I feel super strongly about. I believe that everyone is entitled to their own opinions and I do have my own beliefs and opinions and I do not judge others for their beliefs and opinions, even if they aren’t the same as mine. I feel that God does the judging and he is a way better judge than I’ll ever be, so I’ll let him do his job and I’ll keep to my day job. With that being said I have found some quotes/bible verses and notes that I took from church that I’d like to share that I find are helping me stay Positive and keep that non judging stance. Have a great Tuesday!!